Do you date to marry?

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Dating is fun, right? Meeting new people, doing fun stuff together and learning about one another and then watching as it blossoms into something beautiful and stimulating or crashes and burns into a vague memory that you can laugh about with your friends a few months down the line. And that's okay- it doesn't matter what the outcome is as long as you have a laugh and are happy! Do you know what's not okay? 

Expecting every single date to turn into marriage. 

I used to think that this was a pretty standard attitude to have and then I found myself back on the dating scene and I started to realise how God damn crazy this is. Do you really think you're going to want to marry every person you start dating? Every single one? Realistically, it isn't going to happen!

Now I'm not saying that it's bad to want to marry someone you're dating- that's fine! You're allowed to envision a future with someone! What's mad is not allowing yourself to date freely, living purely in the moment, only dating people you think you'll marry. What happens if you start dating someone with the intention of marrying them because you follow this ridiculous logic, and then it turns out that actually, they don't feel the same? Gutted for you. 


Whilst the point of dating is indeed to find your life long partner in crime, it also serves a greater purpose. It allows you to meet several different types of people and find out what you like and what you don't. It allows you to discover what you want from a partner. It allows you to meet new people, maybe make a friendship instead of the romance you were originally looking for and, overall, have fun with new people too! Dating is about having fun! 

In addition to all of this, it's important to remember that no one acts true to life on a first date- well, people rarely do anyway! So what if you start dating someone and intend to marry them based on their very best person? What happens when you uncover the fact that actually, they leave hairs in the shower, burp in your face for fun and eat like a pig? Gross! Yet you've decided to marry them based on a few dates. Lucky you. 


In my humble opinion, it is important to keep things light hearted, casual. Don't start a first date looking for a fiance. 9 times out of 10, it's not going to work out! Just focus on the here, the now and have a good time! You never know what may fall right into your lap when you least expect it. 

What do you think? Should you date with the intention of marriage? Let me know in the comments below!

Love from,
Florence Grace

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  1. Chichi22 January 2016 at 09:05

    I think dating should be fun, and for one to assume that it's pointless to date unless the date leads to marriage is archaic.

    Chichi
    http://chichi-writes.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Chichi22 January 2016 at 09:07

      P.S. Those quotes are so stupid. I've seen a lot of those quotes on Instagram and Twitter and I just cringe. Some people are so backwards in their way of thinking.

      Chichi
      http://chichi-writes.blogspot.co.uk/

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    2. Florence Grace23 January 2016 at 03:23

      Haha I'm glad you agree!

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