Love from, Florence Grace

People can be right pricks, can't they? It's not often we don't take the blame for a relationship breakdown, be those friendships or romantic relationships. We often tell people it's us, not them. That we're sorry things turned out this way. That we should have tried harder, that we could have done more, that we will regret this. Never do we turn around and say "actually, it's not me, it's you ". Because sometimes, the other person really just is a piece of shit and there's not much that can be done about that. This is something I'm going through at the moment. On some days, I'm having a pretty hard time. In the last twelve months I have had to cut off two people who I considered to be lifelong best buddies, three relatively close friends and a dozen of other distant pals in order to protect my inner peace (lol) and my bloody happiness. And whilst to them, it might seem as if I did this ruthlessly, I've been pretty cut ...

Do you know what is a massive  waste of your time?  Holding grudges. Honestly, what is the point? Where does it get you in life? Absolutely no where.  Now, I'm not saying you have to like everyone, have to be friends with everyone or have to get on with anyone; that's a pretty impossible thing to ask. But what I am saying is that you don't have to go through life constantly disliking people because you're holding a grudge against them. From my own experience I can tell you that it is absolutely draining . After a while it seems like you're only holding a grudge for the sake of holding one, eventually forgetting the original reason you were mad anyway.  The simple solution to this is to simply cut people off. I'm being serious! Why would you want to keep someone in your life but hold a grudge against them forever when you could cut them off? There is absolutely no way you can maintain a healthy relationship or friendship with somebody w...

No, I'm not just quoting a Britney Spears song.  I'm genuinely asking the question "Don't you know that you're toxic?" It's a genuine question that I wish I had the effort to ask to so many people.  I know far too many people who bring nothing positive to my life. No meaning, nothing special, nothing worthwhile. They bring stress, pain, drama, negativity. Combine that all together and you have toxic .  So if I feel this way about so many people, why haven't I asked them exactly why they behave in this way? Well, I'll tell you the simple truth of the matter- I can not be bothered. Really, well and truly can't be bothered.  I'm 20 years old now. I left school two years ago. I had hoped that the nasty, bitter behaviour I encountered so much in school would be left behind with education, but I could not have been more wrong. Apparently, not everyone grows up when they leave school. Apparently life continues just the s...

Do you know what really sucks? Friends who don't support you.  Am I really completely mad for thinking that your friends should support you in all that you do? (As long as it's safe/healthy etc. of course!). I have a brilliant group of friends around me currently, and I've never been so happy with who I spend my time with. They're positive, they life me up, support me, encourage me and I think that's really amazing. I don't have many friends but it's definitely about quality, not quantity, and I think I've got the balance right!  I did have more friends, but as the New Year rolled around, I cut them off. Not in a nasty way, not with any kind of negative actions. I simply stopped bothering to send them messages, stopped texting and calling, stopped trying to arrange meet ups. These people never tried to speak to me, never tried to see me, so why should I bother? Most importantly of all, they never supported me, and I wasn't going to...

To... Well. 'To' a lot of people really. Old friends, family, people I never really liked or got on with. There is a whole variety of people that I will not be keeping with me once the New Year rolls around. It's a sad thing to think about, and it hurts a lot to think about all of the people who have intimidated me, bullied me, betrayed me or even just distanced themselves from me through no fault of my or their own. To the family members, you have hurt me deeply. They say blood is thicker than water but a blood tie with you means nothing to me. My real  family members know who they are and I value them more than anyone else. You have hurt me deeply. Family are supposed to love each other, look after each other. With only your selfish, inconsiderate ways in mind, you have not only hurt me but my siblings too. Although it hurts us to admit it, we will all be happy to leave you behind. I hope you will not treat your other family members the way you have treated me and...